The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Whoever of you has a wife who behaves in a disagreeable manner but he responds by kindness and patience, will be given by Allah rewards as much as Ayyub was given for his forbearance.” [Ihya Ulum Id-Din]
The Prophet Ayyub (alaihis salam) was tried and tested by Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) in an exemplary manner. Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) had given him wealth and children. But then He caused him to lose all his wealth. Then He afflicted him by the death of his children. Finally, He caused Prophet Ayyub (alaihis salam) to develop painful and ugly sores all over his body.
But with each calamity Ayyub (alaihis salam) displayed the patience and forbearance for which he is famous. He never stopped thanking Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) for His favours until Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) reversed his condition and gave everything back to him increased.
A man can earn the blessings that Prophet Ayyub (alaihis salam) earned by displaying forbearance, patience and kindness with a wife who is ill-tempered.
So even the difficult spouse is a gift from Allah (subhana wa ta’ala)! It is up to us to use this additional opportunity towards our Akhirah.