Mother- a gateway to Jannah (heaven)…….so beautifully written.
Over the years we have noticed the level of respect drop for our parents. we are now giving more rights to our friends and partners then so to our parents. This
is written not only to remind myself of their favours but to also remind us all of how the favours of our parents could never be repaid. both parents are significant but in this debate we will be focusng on the favour of our mother.
When one thinks of the word mother, undoubtedly a warm and unique feeling comes to mind. a unique person comes to mind who has a character and role incomparable to any other person. love and kindness comes to mind. a guide and protector comes to mind. someone who would lose there health and sleep over you comes to mind. someone who would stay up praying all night for you comes to mind. someone who would cry if you cried and was happy when you was comes to mind. someone who would go out and get food in any circumstance to ensure you wasnt hungry and even if your family was poor, the little food that she gathered would be fed to the kids to ensure they eat even tho she would go on for days hungry comes to mind. someone who would cover you at night to ensure that you was warm even though she might have been cold herself comes to mind. someone who would never let you see her distress and would ensure everyhing was ok so that you didnt feel sadness comes to mind. when we think of mother, the story of Hajrat Hajra (as) and her son Ishmeal (as)comes to mind. when we think of mother, the story of Hajrat Mariam(as) the mother of Easa (as) comes to mind. when we think of mother, the story of the slave of pheroen comes to mind. when we think of mother, the first martar of islam comes to mind, when we think of mother, the 9 months she held you in her stomach comes to mind. when we think of mother, the pain she suffered to concieve you comes to mind. history is a witness that our mothers favours are too many and uncountable.
So if this is the case of our mothers then WHY are we forsaking our obligations towards her?. when she calls us, WHY are we not responding?. when we get asked by our mothers to do something, WHY do we begin to take the side of our own pride over her?. WHY are we giving more time to our friends then our mother?, WHY are we beginning to raise our voices to her?, is it because you feel your an adult now?. have we fogot about the countless favours of our mothers apon us already. do we feel more superior then our mothers?.
When you was born and you was dirty, crying because you was dependent, the first person that hugged you with love and affection was your mother. she cleaned you when you couldnt clean yourself and washed you when you was dirty. she held you when you couldnt walk and defended you when you couldnt defend yourself. she was your armour and light and you felt empty when she was not there hence you cried as a bay for your mother and she responded with great concern. she fed you when you was hungry and had countless sleepless nights when you would cry at night while she would sit at your bed side comforting you to go to sleep. she clothed you and you learnt your speech from her. she introduced you to education and prayed countlessly that you recieve the best of education. when you had problems, you turned to her. when you was sad, you turned to her. when you done something good she would praise you and lift you with so much love. she never left your side have we forgotten all of these favours?.
Now it has come to time when just as you needed all of this attention and love, the same way you needed to be looked after and fed, the same way you needed to be clothed, your mother will come to a stage when she will dependent on you and how do we respond to this…
We go out with the lads/ladies with no concern about our mother even tho she waits mights on end to see if your ok. we talk rude to her when she asks us a
simple question. we argue with her over little things. we raise our voices at her when she asks us to do something the second time because we reused the first
time. some people push her. we develop habbits that burden her. some even beat there parents and steal from them in order to support these habbits. we talk
rudely with no manners to her. we turn our backs towards her when she asks to speak to. it has come to a point where parents have to ask to speak to there
children. it has come to a point where now YOU have got the ordasity to ask for YOUR rights when you dont want to give them there theres. it has come to a point where she cant even speak loudely to you because of the fear of you verbally slandering her. does this not make you think ?
We all talk about the creation of Jannah and how we all would love a place in. open the book of Allah swt and read the beautiful chapters that describe heaven
to us. read and you would be amazed at such a creation but YET this creation is not even above your mothers head. it is beneth her feet. we talk so high of it
but YET we cant even maintain the door of it. we cant even repay the basic favours of our mothers.
A man once carried hes own mother on hes back from the depths of the arabian peninsula to makkah for the hajj pilgramige and said to the Prohet (pbuh) “i
have just carried my mother on my back from so and so place to the holy land, have i now completed my favour apon her”. the Prophet (pbuh) replied “you havent even repaid the kick that you gave your mother while you was in her stomach”
Subhanallah, if this isnt enough to stress on how we cannot repay the favour of our mothers then take the example of Hajrat Hajra (as)the wife of the Prophet
Ibrahim (as) and her son Ismael (as). how she ran from Saffa to Marwa to find some food or water to feed her son who was hungry and crying for food. she ran
from one moutian to another crying herself beacuse of the distress of her son. how many of us would run from one moutian to another to get food or water for
our mothers when we cant even get up and go to the local shop to get milk or bread for her. and Allah swt loved this so much that he answered her cries and
brought forth the water of Zam Zam. such a water that even up till this day the water is flowing with not many conclusions as where the water is comming from
and Allah swt loved her efforts so much that even today and till the day of Qiyamah, we will have to intimidate this run between Saffa and Marwa or
otherwise our pilgrimage will not be accepted.
History is a witness as is your lord to the favours of your mother. we will never be able to repay them at all. impossible is a word that comes to mind but
above all your mother will never be able to be replaced hence show them love whilst they are here. listen to them and lower the wing of submission to them.
strive to help them and give them there needs respectfully and never let them be angry or upset with you.
A man once consulted the Prophet Muhammad about taking part in a military campaign. The Prophet asked the man if his mother was still living. When told
that she was alive, the Prophet said: “(Then) stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet.” (Al-Tirmidhi)
On another occasion, the Prophet said: “God has forbidden for you to be undutiful to your mothers.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari)
One of the things appreciated by the believers is not only its emphasis on maintaining the bonds of kinship, but also the high regard in which women,
particularly mothers, are held. The Quran, Islam’s revealed text, states: “And revere the wombs that bore you, for God is ever watchful over you.” (4:1)
It should be obvious that our parents deserve our utmost respect and devotion – second only to Allah . Speaking in the Quran, Allah says: “Show gratitude to Me
and to thy parents; to Me is thy final Goal.” (31:14)
The fact that Allah has mentioned parents in the same verse as Himself shows the extent to which we should strive in our efforts to serve the mothers and
fathers who sacrificed so much for us. Doing so will help us to become better people.
In that same verse, Allah says: “We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him.”
In other words, the debt we owe to our mothers is magnified due to the difficult nature of pregnancy – not to mention the nurturing and attention paid to us in
infancy. Another narration, or “Hadith,” from the life of the Prophet Muhammad again shows us just how much we owe to our mothers.
A man once asked the Prophet to whom he should show the most kindness. The Prophet replied: “Your mother, next your mother, next your mother, and then your father.” (Sunan of Abu-Dawood) In other words, we must treat our mothers in a manner befitting their exalted position – and, again, revere the wombs that bore us.
The Arabic word for womb is “rahem.” Rahem is derived from the word for mercy. In Islamic tradition, one of God’s 99 names is “Al-Raheem,” or “the Most
There exists, therefore, a unique connection between Allah (God) and the womb. Through the womb, we get a glimpse of the Almighty’s qualities and attributes. It nurtures, feeds and shelters us in the early stages of life. The womb can be viewed as one manifestation of divinity in the world.
Each of us should appreciate what we have in our mothers. They are our teachersand our role models. Every day with them is an opportunity to grow as a person. Every day away from them is a missed opportunity.
Remeber,,, the prayers/Duas of your parents go to the highest heavens thus be greatful and celebrate with hapiness of the favour of your mother with the
praises of Allah swt and the hapiness of your mother. inshallah Wassalaam